The secret was revealed. Yes, a confession was made and now we all know the truth.
You see, my daughter Grace has not worn a dress by her own choice since she was six. Last year I had to force her into a skirt while we traveled to Africa, traumatized by this event, she quickly gave it away when she got home. Other than that, Grace refused to wear a dress. Why? I would ask her… She said she hated dresses.
We had wondered for years why this kid refused to wear a dress, why the frill and elegance of a dress was so appalling for Grace….but finally we learned the truth…it’s all Grandma Jaynes fault….and Grandma finally confessed.
How the confession took place…..
It all started Sunday afternoon when I took the girls shopping. Isabel found an Easter dress and I looked at Grace and said, “Why don’t you see what you can find for Easter?” I never expected to find Grace in a dressing room trying on a dresses, but sure enough, she came out with this adorable dress on. I guess now that she is in 7th grade, the trauma of the past has worn off. We bought the dress, I took pictures because I wasn’t sure if this would last. I at least wanted the memory to last….
But why now? What was it that kept Grace out of dresses for seven years?
Last night while Grandma and Grace were together, Grandma confessed to Grace about a traumatic memory that Grace had buried because of the deep pain…Grandma brought it to the surface. When Grace was five, Grandma decided to make a dress for Grace. It was spring time, and Grandma bought some yellow, cotton fabric with something so horrible….and frightening…that it would traumatize Grace for a very long time. What was Grandma thinking? She actually bought fabric with….LADYBUGS on it. Despite the scary bugs, Grandma made the dress for Grace. Apparently, when Grandma gave Grace the dress, Grace freaked out.
I do remember the event and I remember that dress. (I think it ended up going to my daughter Isabel). All these years I never realized that this was the cause of Grace’s adverse reaction to dresses. For years I just thought it was a grade school girl thing, or a phase, but now we all know the truth. That Ladybug dress traumatized my daughter, and she simply hated dresses after that. Grandma has carried this burden for a long time. Grandma blamed herself for years for Grace’s fear, and rightly so, after all, ladybugs are very scary.
This mystery has been solved, but now I want to know why Grace won’t wear pink…Grandma Jayne, do you need to confess something?
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